April 12 2011 is a day I will never forget. It started no different from any other, going to work and not expecting anything unusual. Per new office policy there were to be no cell phones out or in use at your desk. My phone rarely rang at work anyway, so I was shocked when I checked it on my break and had 4 missed calls and 2 voicemails. Both messages were from doctors caring for Bennie, who at the time was my off and on boyfriend for the past year. The messages left knots in my stomach, something that I’ d never felt before. I called the attending doctor, he rambled and rambled with information and finally I blurted out “He didn’t die did he?” Yes, Mrs Haggins, he did. I loved this man more than words could say. There were many reasons why we would never be together but I am truly honored to have known him and as much joy as I think I brought into the last year of his life, he no doubt changed mine.