“Let’s go on a trip” the words that I am never prepared to hear or want to hear. Why is that? I am 38 years old, single, childless, with all the free time in the world and don’t want to go anywhere. Lupus??? Is that why? It can’t be, Lupus doesn’t define me or does it. Have I gotten to a place in my life where I am not letting myself be defined by what I’ve done and my accomplishments, but simply by a condition that I didn’t have to apply or even study for. Today has taught me so much about myself and who I still am, my name is Erika and I have Lupus but I will never let it have me.